Recently, two of my younger siblings got engaged. Being that they are 8 and 12 years younger than me, that pill has been a little hard to swallow. They’re the “little” siblings and it’s hard to believe they’re already old enough to get hitched. This is kind of like an open letter to them. Yes, I will send them the link in the hopes they read it 🙂
My Dearest Siblings R & R,
You will get a lot of unsolicited and quite frankly ridiculous advice from people when they hear you’re going to tie the knot. Just like having kids, EVERYONE has an opinion.
“Always say ‘I love you’.”
“Never go to bed angry.”
You get the idea..
They all think they know the secret, but.. Surprise! There is no “secret” and every relationship is different, for the most part.
I know what you’re probably thinking: why should I take advice from someone whose marriage crashed and burned? The answer is I can likely help you prevent your relationships from the same fate. That being said, I’m going to dispense a little sisterly advice to you.
There are two people in a relationship. Two. Once you let a third party dictate how your relationship is run, you’re giving control of your relationship over to them. Once that happens, communication goes downhill, which leads me to..
Relationships take work. Lots of it. I hope both you and your future spouse realize that. If one of you isn’t putting in the effort, your relationship will suffer. I’m not telling you to smother each other or to be paranoid, but just understand that there is someone who is directly affected by your actions or lack thereof.
I’m not an expert nor much of an example either, but I hope you both can benefit from my advice and learn from my mistakes.
I love you both and I wish you the best… And if you ever need anything, Big Sis is always here 🙂 <3